If you haven’t caught on by now, I am a self love advocate. From my poetry to my personality on social media to me in actuality, I advocate for self love to the 100th power.
Because I can and it is my divine right to do so. I have come to terms with my job here on this earth and it is to help people regain balance within themselves by starting with self.And how do you start with self?
Well I am glad you ask. That would be the very thing within you that has no conditions and that my friend is love.
When you combine self and love you open a new door of unexplored territory. For a lot of people this has only been rediscovered recently due to the strong urge to find self again.
It isn’t that hard to find love in yourself because all you need to do is listen. You are the key to unlocking the door and healing yourself. When you accept that you are love you can give back to self as much as you need to without the feeling of not having enough. Sometimes you may need time to love self more than other times and then there may be other times you forget.
Nothing you do is right or wrong because you are in charge. It is up to you!
There are things you can do habitually to tell self “I love you” and that can look different depending on what you feel.
I know sometimes when I am in need of love I meditate, sit quietly, listen to music that speaks to me, write poetry, journal, go outside, or just stay in bed.
Oh no, there is nothing to feel guilty about either! When your mind, body, and spirit crave these things it is for a very good reason so you should listen because it can be the love you need to heal yourself from the past week or surfacing traumas.
So I want you to keep note of 3 ways that self love can improve your day.
#1 Self love relieves stress
Sitting down to indulge in your favorite hobby can relieve the mind, body, and spirit. This may stop negative mental events, relaxed tense muscles, and help you to connect with self to hear whatever it needs to say.
#2 Self love creates positive thoughts
Let’s say you like to wear makeup and that’s one of the things you do when you want to show love to yourself. Creatively expressing yourself this way can make you feel that you are capable of doing something good and boost your self-worth. Not only will you look good but also feel good about how you look and that you made yourself look this good. Creating positive and affirming thoughts of “I am beautiful and I am capable of feeling beautiful”. This can have an enormous positive effect on your day.
#3 Self love gives you confidence
Another example…you decide to go out and completely pamper yourself. You feel like you deserve it and you know your body could benefit from this. You almost don’t go because you feel so awful and you are so self-aware that you begin making excuses but somehow you end up at the spa anyways. It takes hours to get your hair, a facial, a massage, a pedi and mani done but you had nothing else to do so it doesn’t matter. You feel really guilty until you look at yourself in the mirror and you are glowing. You can’t help but to smile because your love is radiating and the guilt melts away.
You decide that you are feeling good tonight and you want to go out with some friends. You go out, feel free, and luck up on a date with someone you have been eyeing for quite some time. This all happened because you decided to get up and put back into yourself.
This is only an example but the possibilities are endless and the least that can happen is that you feel better than you did before. Honestly, sometimes that’s all we really want and need.
The universe will reflect what you show it. Let it mirror what you want to see.
So get up and put a little or a lot of love into yourself today!!
– Shan Bae