I Am Breaking My Heart

I recently connected with a young woman who has been feeding me knowledge since the day we started talking. I regularly listened to her podcast and giggled at the humor her and her co-anchor brought but I absorbed all the knowledgeable goodness.

I thank the universe for social media, even with the negatives I am a believer that the positive will always outweigh all of the negative. I am also a believer of what you put out is what you get back and what you hold onto stays around until you learn to let go. So if it wasn’t for me getting real with myself I wouldn’t have found such positive influences that I could actually grow with.


She wrote a post on Medium speaking on being triggered by what a friend said and learned from the experience instead of making a mess of it. In her article she talked about her need to be validated coming from the outside world because she had not given it to herself.

Ironically, she talked about Philautia, a greek word easily translated into self love and if you have known of me for some time you know that the book I’ve been trying to write was originally named “Philautia”. I have recently changed the name to a secret one and the irony of this is making me kind of regret it but I think the name is fitting for what I am trying to write right now. I don’t know, I thought that was really cool and probably a message for me to continue with this word as a title but publish all new poems for this book.

Below is a snippet of what she wrote that really stood out for me.


The Greeks understood that in order to care for others, we must first learn to care for ourselves. This form of self-love is not the unhealthy vanity and self-obsession that is focused on personal fame, gain and fortune as is the case with Narcissism.

Instead, philautia is self-love in its healthiest form. It shares the Buddhist philosophy of “self-compassion” which is the deep understanding that only once you have the strength to love yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin, will you be able to provide love to others. As Aristotle put it, “All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man’s feelings for himself.

You cannot share what you do not have. If you do not love yourself, you cannot love anyone else either. The only way to truly be happy is to find that unconditional love for yourself. Only once you learn to love and understand yourself, will you be ready to search for the spiritual freedom of the Self.

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Infinite Love 🖖🏼


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Shan Bae

My name is Shan Bae. I am a 25 year old artist and creative writer from Kansas City, MO. I am also the small business owner of Insaei Healing which translates into True Healing. I hand make jewelry using gemstones that have the ability to help aid in the healing of the chakras in the human body. I am also a Reiki Energy Healer and I use this powerful energy source to charge the gemstones in my jewelry. For more information or to purchase a choker please head over to http://insaeihealingshop.com. I am open to connect and network with people who are interested in working with me. I would love to collaborate with other poets or bloggers. You are always welcome to send me a message via the “send a love letter” page on my blog. Send inquiries to: contact@shanbae.com

2 thoughts on “I Am Breaking My Heart”

  1. Just curious. Why do you say you’re breaking your own heart. I read this twice to try to figure that out lol

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